Embracing My True Self: My Journey as a Transgender Man

From a young age, I knew something felt different. It wasn’t a realization that came later in life—I simply knew. As a child, once I learned about the differences in genitalia, I understood that I was in the wrong body. Puberty was especially difficult for me, and by the time I was 11, I had socially transitioned, recognizing that this was who I truly was. However, it wasn’t until I was in my 20’s that I took the next step in my journey and began my medical transition.

For me, transitioning has never been about "passing" in society’s eyes. People will always have their own opinions, and I’ve learned not to let them define my sense of self. What truly changed my life was how my transition impacted my relationships with family and those closest to me. Coming from a Christian household made it difficult, as our values, morals, and ideologies didn’t align perfectly. The biggest challenge I’ve faced since medically transitioning has been gaining the acceptance and respect of those I love. But despite the difficulties, I’ve put in the effort to educate myself, do research, and seek out the right resources to be my true, authentic self.

Since I was around 10, I’ve been searching for answers about why I felt different. Talking to different therapists and doctors played a huge role in guiding me toward the right path. Choosing my name was another important step, though legally changing it has been a challenge due to the political climate in my state. With Trump in office and living in a red state, pushing for these changes has been more complicated. However, in April 2025, I will finally have my gender marker changed, and I will work on updating my birth certificate and other legal documentation to reflect my chosen name and identity.

The impact of transitioning has been profound. Understanding my gender identity and finally feeling comfortable in my skin has made me happier than ever. For so long, I battled depression and tried to change myself, but nothing truly worked until I did some deep self-reflection and embraced who I am. One of the most affirming experiences I’ve had is simply being accepted by my friends. My mom, though initially struggling, has started to accept me more, which has been incredibly meaningful.

Public interactions can also be affirming—being addressed with the correct pronouns (he/him) without needing to correct people is an amazing feeling. I’ve experienced discrimination, but only in spaces that aren’t LGBTQIA+ friendly, and only when I choose to disclose my identity. Thankfully, I’ve found a supportive community of trans brothers and sisters who have helped me navigate legal processes, name changes, and more. I’ve also been able to pay it forward by helping others in return.

For those just starting their transition—whether FTM or MTF—my biggest piece of advice is to be patient and learn to love yourself. Transitioning isn’t always easy, but it’s a journey worth taking. Starting hormone replacement therapy (HRT) has taught me patience and has reinforced the importance of letting things fall into place. The trans community has played a huge role in my life, providing guidance, support, and a chosen family when I needed it most.

One invaluable resource I’ve found is UNC’s transgender department. Living in North Carolina, I’ve also found support within Raleigh, where I’ve received the right information to move forward confidently.

At the end of the day, being free and comfortable in my own skin is a blessing. My journey is ongoing, but every step I take toward authenticity makes it all worthwhile.